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Part I: Catch Her, If You Can...

I’m going to talk to you straight, one guy to another. This short manual on closing is graphic, it’s

direct, and it’s blunt. I won’t pull punches and I will not apologize. We’re here to talk about sex.

The thing that makes sex a challenge for so many guys is this: they haven’t figured out how to

gain easy access to the female body. It’s that simple.

But let’s back up a second. What is closing, anyhow? Thematically, the “close” is the action

moment where a man breaks a woman. If done properly, it’s the moment she capitulates to his

male strength. You can number close a girl on the street. You can kiss close a girl in the club.

You can fuck-close (disgusting term, in my opinion) a chick back at your place. All of these

closes require two qualities, qualities that are the distillation of masculine behavior and attitude.

Those qualities are: Clarity and Confidence. If you don’t possess them, no amount of filler,

routines or logistical trickery is going to get you laid. You can try as hard as you’d like, but

without a strong close, all these prospects - and all the hard work you’ve done to line them up -

will go up in smoke. This short manual will give you the Clarity by explaining what to do and

when to do it; Confidence will come from practice.

Why Closing is Important

My e-book Janka Method will teach you how to create “windows” of opportunity, but to

capitalize on the moment, you must know how to pull the trigger. The reason one guy is able to

convert a hot girl into a “girlfriend” while another dude must settle for “just being friends” is that

the former was a strong closer. There are a lot of technical details on closing, and I’ll get into

those in a minute, but it’s crucial you understand your role because failure to close is the number

one reason women don’t come back . I know from experience that I can impress a girl on a first

date, I can be funny, make her comfortable, even spend money on her, but if I don’t get physical

she’ll often fail to materialize for date #2. There’s something that happens when a man and

women share a physical moment, even if it’s just a kiss. That simple connection provokes

something in her body and she feels compelled to see you again. I know this from thousands of

dates.

In fact, I can be a lousy date in every regard - cheap, lazy, fail to make plans, unshaven and

dressed like a slob - but if I can make the move and get in there, the girl often comes back. It

works like this: a desirable woman has a screen - a block - and most men can’t get past it. She

knows that, and though she may socialize with all types of men, she only really pays attention to

those who can break through the wall she’s erected. If you can get to her physically - access her

body, in the crudest terms - you will have accomplished what 90% of men have failed to do. In

doing so, you’ll have made an impression on her. Her thinking proceeds thus: “He was able to

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get in my pants, therefore he must be an alpha-male and therefore desirable as a mate.” It

happens on such an unconscious, biological level that most women can’t explain it. That’s why

all the cosmetics - clothes, nice car, manners, fancy dinners - don’t matter much in the end. The

man who can maneuver to gain access turns out to be the one she chases.

Why the Apartment is Pivotal

The biggest problem in today’s dating scene is that the focus is all wrong. Dating, most people

will agree, is about a connection - which can lead to companionship, partnership and romance. A

common denominator, of course, is sex. Which we all love! But, the problem is that the majority

of courtship occurs in non-sexual venues where escalation is difficult, if not impossible.

That’s where Janka Method comes in - it will teach you the how and why of female attraction.

As you’ll learn, making a physical connection quickly is imperative . Failure to do this results in

the “friend zone” and her feeling that she had a pleasant - as opposed to electric - time with you.

It’s the rare guy who can keep a desirable girl’s interest without creating a physical spark,

especially in the modern dating scene where there’s heavy competition. If you don’t make your

mark, there’s another guy - in many ways just like you - right nearby who can claim the sexy

female. Physical contact releases something within a woman - not least of all romance

neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine - that creating craving in her. A craving for you!

Let’s start with the basics: it’s hard to escalate in public. I’ve done it - on benches, in the park, in

the back seat of taxicabs, on the beach - but it’s not ideal. You need the right type of girl, under

the right influences, at the right time. Aligning all these conditions is tricky. It’s a lot better to

have her undivided attention and the supporting role of a sexy bachelor pad.

As you’ll see when I discuss some technical aspects of “closing” below, your apartment must be

the pivot point for all your dating. It’s the place you always want to end up and it’s the place

where you want to spend a few dollars. Spend money on your game by fixing up your place

nicely, not on feeding a string of girls at overpriced restaurants. Your apartment is the one place

in the city (or suburbs) that you fully control. You know where everything is, you know how to

maximize its benefits: a view, a balcony, a nice stereo, a jacuzzi. Make it the centerpiece of your

dating strategy: your itinerary should start and end in your apartment. I’ll explain how to do this

in a bit, but for now I want you to re-conceptualize your apartment as Headquarters.

And here’s another main reason the apartment is so crucial, and perhaps the number one

underutilized asset in a guy’s arsenal: only in the privacy of an apartment, alone with the girl,

can you really bring out your best game. Let me explain.

Years ago, I started to realize that I wasn’t at my best on dinner dates. Turns out there are many

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reasons for this: I had to pay, which is depressing. I got full and tired. Eating, generally speaking,

isn’t sexy. I had to do everything - feed myself, be charming and keep the conversation going,

and in the end, pay for the whole thing! What a raw deal! But, there was another reason that

“outside” dates were less than effective: I wasn’t circling for the kill. When an attractive girl is

sitting on my couch, giving me her full attention, I’m at my best. I know I’m under the lens, and

so is she. I do my best work when the “kill” is palpable. I am charming, attentive, funny and

hyper-alert to details. The music is perfect, the temperature is ideal. She’s sitting in the perfect

spot. If she wants a drink, she’s got it. We’re alone. It’s now or never, and I know it. My body

knows it. My brain knows it. My cock knows it.

The imminent possibility of sex is a powerful motivator. It brings out my best performance, and

it’ll bring out your best, too. That’s why “outside” dates are never as intense or the chemistry is

more diffuse. And forget about group “dates” or whatever they’re called. When there’s not the

possibility of immediate sex, the male is much more relaxed, distractible and error prone. It’s

biology.

And here’s the kicker: the female body and mind will respond. She’ll recognize this incredible

intensity in you and will do one of two things: engage or flee. It’s that simple. And either way,

you’re better off, having collected real information about her, rather than bullshit pleasantries

that often emerge from public, group or social interactions.

Of course, this must sound aggressive, and it even seems a bit extreme as I type it here, now.

But, it’s the truth, and at the beginning I gave you my word I’d only tell you the truth, the stuff

that actually works. I’ve slept with well over 200 women, and this is a fundamental rule of

attraction. If you don’t create the conditions to allow for this type of sexual exchange, you’re not

really looking for a sexual partner - you’re looking for a friend.

Grand Irony #1: You Can’t Mention The Apartment

It’s entirely ludicrous that you can’t reference the apartment in the early stages, even though for

this thing to work you both have to end up in the apartment. It’s a female form of pacing that

they want to strip (or more accurately American society wants to strip) any blatant reference to

sex from the initial courtship, lest this thing expire in the fumes of lust.

And because your object of desire can pull the plug at any time, you have to play by the rules

(sort of!). So, don’t mention the apartment, but know that your game is all about getting her back

to it ASAP.

Here are two techniques that have been field-tested by me and other heavy-number guys…

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1) The Swing By

Here you station yourself at the apartment with no intention of leaving . That’s the key. Choose a

bar or lounge in your hood and tell her you want to meet there at 9PM, for example. Fifteen

minutes before 9 o’clock, text her: “Just getting ready. Swing by and grab me. We’ll head over to

Flannigan’s together...”

Hopefully, she responds, “Ok.” When she arrives, communicate - via text or a call - that you’re

not quite ready, but tell her to, “Pop up while I finish getting ready.” This takes finesse and

plenty of practice, and there will always be some that won’t come up. But, for those who do,

you’ve got a good thing going. Have a drink poured and offer her something. And then,

depending on her level of restlessness, persuade her to remain and enjoy the mood, the music,

the drinks, the conversation - in essence, everything she hoped for on the date - while she chills

at your place. When it comes to getting physical, it’ll make your work much easier.

2) Let’s Bounce

If you do the lounge routine, you will need to transition to your place, which is always the

hardest part - girls aren’t stupid. They know sexual math: private residence = access to my

vagina.

You have to get her back without raising any red flags, which is hard, especially with a desirable

woman who’s seen it all. If you have liquor on your side, or the heavy make-out has begun,

you’re in luck. You don’t have much to do, just not fuck it up. But, for most dates, you’ll have to

transition to your place smoothly.

After your second drink at the bar, tell the girl you’re tired of this place and you have another

cute spot in mind. Hail a cab/walk/drive, if sober/bicycle (hey, you never know!) back to your

place without disclosing where exactly you’re taking her. When you arrive, give her a kiss - if

you can - and announce, “We’re here!”

It helps to seed the idea a bit earlier, by mentioning something in the apartment that may intrigue

her: a particular photo album, music track, yearbook, piece of art, etc. I know a guy who sells the

fact that he has an indoor planetarium. Other things that work are a full-service, nicely appointed

wet bar, DVD or spectacular view. Anything can work, and the function of the “prop” is really to

allow the girl to lie to herself that she wants to see this thing at your place, rather than having to

admit to herself that she wants to be naughty. It’s an excuse to proceed. It allows her to justify

entering your place on the first date.

This conversation happens entirely in her head, and it’s often subconscious.

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