as per request here are the notes i took down. although i must say, they do not do Zan justice. i didnt write down everything, and I paraphrased somewhat so obviously there will be holes. i apologise in advance if i write down anything wrong or misquoted or whatnot, its 130am and ive spent all day studying for finals.... u better give me some love for this Roy L, ;)
choose to be good with women
-all naturals chose to be good with women, a conscious decision
indirect game
-not attached to outcome
-relaxed and unfocused
direct game
-intense and focused
-let her know
The natural
-relaxed and focused
-way of being
-compassion for all his girls
presence and understanding = attractive
Technique for Chemistry
- talk about a moment when you were very embarrassed and get her to tell u back
- talk about a moment when you were very scared and get her to tell u back
- talk about how u would feel losing someone close to you and get her to tell u back
- every 30 min interrupt and say “I’m sorry to interrupt, but I need to tell you X… (insert comment about her personality ect.)
- Maintain and keep eye contact, lean in, touch her elbow, LISTEN!!
Zan’s Powerful Technique
- profess undying devotion then walk away forever
- pre-empt her “I don’t know what I want” speech when things are beginning to go sour/bad/slow
- Say: “Listen, I think about u day and night, I adore u…. but I cant stay. You’ve touched me on a level very deep that no one has done before. I can’t handle it. I have to leave.”
- You have to actually BE willing to leave
- She doesn’t have guarantee on you anymore
**FALL IN LOVE BUT WALK AWAY**
To understand women…
- Ask her why?
- Why date me?
- Why sleep with me? Ect.
- Few days after breakup (not during!) ask “I respect u don’t want to go out with me, I’d just like to know what happened….blah…”
- You are being reflective, proves your different, u learn and can use it for next girl, and clearing ur own head…
**GOOGLE ARTHUR AARON…. Scientist that did some studies, promiscuous voles
After breakup/broken heart
- DO NOT CONTACT HER! NONE WHATSOEVER! DELETE HER NUMBER, DELETE HER MSN, AND PUT AWAY OLD PICTURES!
- You will be miserable yes, but this will help you heal faster
- This is not a tactic to get her back, but to get your center back
- After a while she might contact you through phone, MSN, email…. DO NOT RESPOND.
- She is trying to clear her own conscience. When she asks “r u ok?” and u say “yes”, u let her off the hook, she is clear.
- Women are sensitive, they don’t want to hurt us. It just happens…
- If she comes to your door, (cause she knows where u live!) then u can let her in and talk.
- Its up to you now to keep her or let her go.
Frame of the Natural
- She is already his girl.
- She is already “picked up”
- “They are all my girls”
- AFC asks himself all the time “Does she like me?”
- Natural asks himself all the time “Do I like her?”
- Never defend/apologize for your self
- Never respond to her challenge
- make fun of yourself, (not depressing), shows u can laugh at yourself, confidence
- no hint of presumption, no toxicity of manipulation
***BE THE GUY WOMEN ARE DRAWN TO. CHOOSE IT!!!!!!***
shmoach